Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda – Excuses and Regretted Words

Recently, I celebrated a birthday.  For some reason, I have been hearing the words: shoulda, woulda, coulda. Maybe I am paying extra attention to these words since I am older and hopefully wiser. I thought it would be interesting to dissect the meaning since these are excuses and regretted words. WOULDA and COULDA– I think these are excuse words.  Here is an example, “I woulda/coulda BUT__________________.”  Another way to say the same thing with personal accountability is,  “I could have done more.” SHOULDA- This word is officially added to my list of things never to say. I have a plaque Continue Reading

The Good, the Bad and the Funny

 My friend, Penny and I had one of those special girlfriend visits. We both needed to lean on each other for wisdom, good insight and prayer. As Penny spoke to me, I began to realize something in her and in myself that speaks volumes about our personalities. Penny is an amazing person who has the gift of sensitivity. Penny was being sensitive to a need in another’s life that became overwhelming and consuming. I made the comment, “Penny, your sensitivity is your good/bad.” In other words, her ability to be sensitive to the needs of others can also become a Continue Reading

Suzie Humphreys is a WOW-Woman of Wisdom

Do you have WOW in your life? Are you a WOW? I was delighted to hear Suzie Humphreys, one of my WOW (Women of Wisdom), speak last week at the National Speakers Association’s Annual meeting. My new book, “Rhinestones on my Flip-Flops” (now available for pre-orders), has a section dedicated to WOW. I love Suzie’s style of speaking; her wit and wisdom are as sharp as a Texas boot spur. Along with her hilarious humor, Suzie throws in a zinger or two just at the right time. In her amazing presentation, she gave us three major bullet points for life Continue Reading

Spanx for the Memories

Miss South Carolina week arrived!  I dragged the old pageant gown box from underneath my bed, blew off the dust and proceeded to pray that some garment with rhinestones fit. Outfit after outfit, the mirror was not too kind. UGGH. Finding the perfect outfit and dealing with weight issues is one flip-flop women do not like! My new book, “Rhinestones on My Flip-Flops”,  being released in September, addresses weight issues that women face, spanx and much more! Spanx to the rescue! I have a whole drawer filled with them; high waist, low waist, long boys, bra Spanx, non-bra, body suit Spanx, Continue Reading

How to Experience Extragavant Joy

Bree Boyce Marsh chooses JOY! My buddy and Miss South Carolina “sistah” made a decision several years ago that changed her life in a dramatic way. It is Miss South Carolina week and in honor of this exciting event and the theme of my new book, “Rhinestones on My Flip-Flops,” I thought of Bree Boyce Marsh. Bree possesses many of the same qualities I highlight in a chapter in my book entitled, “Fearless and Fabulous Esther.”  Like queen Esther, Bree is brave, bold and beautiful. But it did not start out that way. Bree was 17 years old and weighed in at 234. She Continue Reading

Even Kitty "Jenks" Has Flip-Flops

“Momma,” said Caroline. I found a sweet kitty in a flower pot in front of Daddy’s office. She is hurt. “Well, Caroline,” I said. “Take her to the Vet.” Poor, little kitty had a broken leg. After 3 weeks of kitty R&R, she was running, jumping and playing. The once frightened and traumatized kitty is slowly making our home, her home. We named her Jenks and she is a cutie but she also has “street smarts”. Jenks has no fear and rules in a large way to be such a little kitty. Even Milo, Caroline’s monster kitty runs from Jenks. Continue Reading

Yep, She called Me Ugly; A Flip-Flop Faux-Pas

    In honor of my new book, “Rhinestones on my Flip-Flops,” I remembered a funny flip-flop story that occurred a few days after I was crowned Miss South Carolina-enjoy!     I was riding high after being crowned Miss South Carolina on Saturday night. Now it was time to prepare for the Miss America Pageant. Sitting in the pageant shop my mind was spinning with thoughts of a myriad of things to check off my list before walking on that iconic Atlantic City stage. I sat down by an older woman as I waited to meet with the gown Continue Reading

Gullah and Johns Island – Remembering My Past

When the folks at Elysian Magazine asked if I knew any Charleston chefs, I said “Well, I know a fabulous Lowcountry Gullah cook who has been cooking for Johns Island’s Rural Mission for over 30 years.” The next thing you know, I am calling Doris Sease (daughter of my beloved Tootsie) and arranging a photo shoot on our property on Johns Island.  The magazine just came out this week entitled, Continuing a Legacy.  Be sure to pick up a copy of Elysian Magazine and read this wonderful article.       Writer, Abby Derring and photographer, Josh Norris captured the essence of Doris’ passion Continue Reading

How to Drive Your Own Limo

Flip-Flops happen; some are large events and other episodes are flat-out annoying.  In honor of my new book, Rhinestones on My Flip-Flops, that will be released September 2017, I thought I would share a unique flip-flop event that involves a limo with a very nervous driver…enjoy! Have you ever had a moment when you made a decision to be in the “driver’s seat?” I am speaking figuratively, of course, but several years ago, I was literally put into this position. I was speaking in Flint, Michigan and was told that a car service would be picking me up.  I stood Continue Reading

And The Winner Is…

I was new to the world of pageantry. Interview always grabbed my interest until my pageant coach (yes, they exist, especially in the South) asked me the unthinkable. “Jane,” he said. “Who should win this pageant?” My brain and mouth froze. Seeing the look on my face, my coach challenged me and asked, “Why are you here? Do you want to be the winner or not?” I made the decision to be a winner…at life. Continue Reading